A celebration of Abi’s life will be held at the Harbor Walk Clubhouse on Saturday, December 8 at 1:00. The address is 4120 Harbor Walk Avenue in Norfolk Virginia.
Abi was born on December 28, 1990 at Mount Sinai Medical Center in New York City. It was snowing, and it was the first time she saved a life.
Abi lived in Norfolk and Monterey and Honolulu and Montvale and Newport and Springfield and Smithfield, all before she turned eighteen.
Abi began swimming competitively at the Montvale Swim Club when she was seven and she and her soul-match cousins comprised the league champion relay team. She kept swimming competitively until high school, when she realized that high school students don’t get up at 4:30 in the morning. But she kept swimming, albeit less competitively, with her high school teams, and twice went to the Virginia High School state tournament.
Abi was a Girl Scout and her mom, Marcia, her Girl Scout leader.
She was a difficult sister at times. She had awful boyfriends in high school (but also one who was slightly less awful.)
Abi found Kylie, her first-tier one soul match (non-family division), in Smithfield.
Abi danced, but not well. But she danced anyway. Unembarrassed. There’s a recording of Abi doing the “In my feelings challenge” for Joseph and Evan and Tammy the day they participated in the Peletonia.
Abi found John Mayer, her second tier-one soul match (non-family division), in an Astrology Astronomy class at Ohio State University in 2010. John got a better grade in the class than she did, and she never got over it.
Less importantly, she graduated magna cum laude from Ohio State in 2012.
Abi went to work for CIRS, a world leader in medical imaging and dosimetry phantoms, that Fall. Within a few years, she was the sales and marketing manager.
Abi married her soul-match from Astronomy class In September 2016 in an outside ceremony just as the sun was setting over the Chesapeake Bay. They danced to the Jacob Vanko Band under the stars until midnight with one hundred of their best friends and family.
Nobody wanted to leave that night.
Abi loved the Shenandoah mountains and Charlottesville and King Family Crose wine.
Abi was told she had stage four, high grade neuroendocrine cancer in February 2017. Her Girl Scout friends were among the first to reach out to her.
Abi sang. Sometimes, her voice became ethereal and everybody in the room would try to hear without stopping what they were doing. Because her voice would begin to trail off as soon as she realized they were listening. She never believed how beautiful her voice could be.
Abi loved Christmas and good food. She usually began listening to the Kasey Musgraves Christmas album a few weeks before Thanksgiving, and always wanted to decorate the house way too early. She implemented monthly Christmas celebrations with family and friends earlier this year.
Abi founded Outwrite Design Company, and co-founded Two Flounders with her dad Chris. In both, she’s able to share her philosophy of love and choice with anyone who’s interested. But she never gets preachy.
Abi got really good at being a sister. Like really, really good. Not only to her brothers, Chris and Nate, but to her new sisters, Katie and Victoria and Jackie, and her new brother Joseph.
She was also really good at being a niece, an aunt, a cousin, a granddaughter, and a world-class daughter-in-law for Joe and Chrystal Mayer, her MILLY and FILLY.
Abi began losing her voice to cancer in June. But she fought as hard as she could to keep it long enough to officiate Nate and Jackie’s wedding. A few weeks after that, all she could do was whisper.
As far as we know, there are no recordings of Abi’s ethereal singing voice. But her dad has a voicemail that she left on his phone this Spring that he mercifully never deleted.
Abi loves white stock. The more, the better.
Abi promised she would leave things in our pockets after she died to let us know she’s still with us. Some of us are terrified we’ll find one of her little things in our pocket one day and forget to breathe. We’re also terrified we’ll look in our pockets every single day but never find one of her little things, and we’ll forget to breathe because of that.
After Abi was diagnosed with high grade, stage four neuroendocrine cancer, she was determined not only to let love pour out of her, but also to let it come in. She found tier-one soul matches (non-family category) were almost everywhere.
Abi fought her cancer the only way that made sense to her. By living her life fully. She fought so f***ing hard.
On Tuesday, 4 December, 2018, Abi chose mercy. She passed quietly after she gathered some of those she loved around her.
Abi asked that instead of sending flowers, you consider a donation in her memory to First Descents,
Or maybe just fill your house with white stock and think of her.